Perception VS Reality
Everyone is the main character of their own story.
This thought came from a late night discussion a couple weeks back and it has stuck with me since - because it's SO true. Everyone IS the main character of their own story; & this is where perception vs reality comes into play.
Reality is harsh.
Reality is facts.
Reality is what it is (& it's not always pretty).
For example, the situation I laid out about my husband and I in the last vent - YES, my perception is that what I did isn’t even in the same stratosphere as cheating - but regardless, the reality of what I did is still SUPER sh*tty.
I f*cked up as the main character of my story.
But I'm willing to experience the discomfort associated with that truth so I don't do it again.
Accepting the truth, no matter how ugly, is the only way to progress. & unfortunately, most of the characters written about here have a very strange relationship with the truth.
These vents could be written subjectively - scenarios laid out dry, black and white, start to finish (without GIFs, but like, where’s the fun in that?) - & these characters would still be villains.
So why do these vents illicit SUCH venom when each main character has power over their actions - over their stories? Because the characters who find themselves in a denv.her. vent sesh perceive themselves as something they are not. & they are incapable of seeing themselves as “bad guys”.
But who is denv.her. to play the morality police? Who gave me that authority to call these characters out? No one. & that reality also makes me a bad guy.
You guys remember Faye? Let's chat about her real quick.
So after I pulled Betrayal Part II because a friend asked me to, Faye was then told (by that same friend...lol) that I had written about her. Faye then proceeds to go around this event telling anyone within earshot of my husband or I:
"I WISH I WAS OBSESSED ENOUGH WITH SOMEONE TO WRITE A BLOG ABOUT THEM.
I WISH I WAS THAT OBSESSED."
& let's take a look at the facts.
Your perception is that I'm obsessed with you.
Your perception is that you are the victim.
Yet all I did was interrupt your story line with reality.
You talked bad about me for weeks prior to the vent hitting over a situation we had supposedly squashed - you had “accepted” my apology - yet behind my back, you continued to rampantly talk trash. & you've done the same to a slew of others who sing the EXACT same chorus of you being #fayke.
So “take this moment to look inside yourself and see - that if everyone around you says you're dead
- it's time to lie down.”
Faye, I said it before and I'll say it again.
You are fake.
& if you are able to scrounge up an ounce of self awareness, maybe you can turn that reality around.
We’re all the main characters of our own stories; but the ones who can get past their perceptions and correctly perceive situations around them, will ALWAYS leave the pretenders behind.
Till Next Time.